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Parents Share Their Stories About The Push For Your Baby by Lamaze

Cherington:                 It was truly a magical experience.

Diana:                          It’s not like it is on TV like right where I just “Oh, we just rushed to the hospital, boom, there’s the baby.”

Desiree:                      For me, I just wanted the most positive experience from my daughter and I.

Jessica:                       Am I going to have that best experience or am I going to be on the other end of the spectrum?

Cherington:                 Because of my Morphine allergy, I knew that if I needed to use an intervention, I would have to almost go to a C-Section.  And I really didn’t want to wake up and all of a sudden just have a child on my arms.

Dad 1:                          [Inaudible 00:36] and I were working as a team to put pressure on certain places on Cherington’s body where it would help relieve the pain.

Cherington:                 I got out of the tub, they put me on the bed, and I pushed less than five times, and I was able to bring forth my daughter.  They allowed me to pull her out of me and put her onto my chest.  It was just an amazing completion.

Desiree:                      After looking at things, I really felt like a natural childbirth would be the way to go so I wanted to birth in a birthing center.  It was a really beautiful experience just to kind of labor freely.  It really made me feel, I think, every step of the way that my midwife believed in my body.   The pushing stage was really difficult for me but when they handed her to me, I felt like both of us, both she and I just took a huge sigh of relief because it was such a work to get to the point that we were at.  It was amazing.  It was absolutely the birth that I felt I needed to have and hoped to have.

Diana:                          They put me on the machine and they saw “We know you’re having contractions pretty steady.  We can induce you.”  It’s up to you kind of thing.   I kept being offered an epidural and I kept reminding them “No.  I don’t want that.”  When they put me on the EFM just for a short interval to get the strip of how the baby was doing, his heart rate had dropped significantly.  We were going to do what we needed to do to keep our son healthy, suggesting some alternatives that were very helpful in the end in achieving the birth that we had envisioned for our son.  I was able to dilate at least 4 centimeters in half an hour and pushed him out in three pushes.  And I think that is all thanks to my doctor having an open mind.

Edith:                           I was experiencing preterm labor contractions so I was contracting a lot from the very beginning like every two to three minutes and so I said “Okay.  Now, this must be it.”  And of course, I was 1 centimeter.  I was very, very upset.  When the anesthesiologist placed the epidural, I continued to have the pain so they had to give me extra medication and so I really was unable to feel anything from the waist down.  I knew how to push but I just said I like that someone had to truly guide me on pushing.

Leah:                           I spent a lot of time in the bath when I went into labor.  And when I went to the hospital, they didn’t have a bath there but they had a shower and I went in there.  And these aren’t things that I would have thought would have helped me but it ended up being extremely helpful and completely eliminated the pain.  The doctor who was on call came in.  He made me feel like I was on a timetable like the clock was ticking and it was time to get the baby out and move on.   I think in having the episiotomy, it would have been better if we had made the decision together.  I remembered he brought in the table with everything on it and just started cutting.  I wanted to know more.  I wanted to say like “What’s the issue?  Is there something I could do differently?” and he would just say “Hold your breath.”  And he and the nurse would count to 10 sort of like shouting to encourage me along but it didn’t help.  I felt like really defeated.

Jessica:                       I actually felt extremely confident being a pregnant woman because I am an OB nurse and I have my Masters in Women’s Health so I had a lot of knowledge surrounding my pregnancy and it was kind of the time where all of my knowledge would be played out into true practice.  I think the moment that I chose to be induced was the moment that it was outside of my hands and it became this cascade of events that once they started rolling, I couldn’t stop.  This was just what was going to happen to me because I was having an induction.  I knew I was having a C-Section and being on the bed and coming back to the OR, I finally knew what every woman felt like when they were that woman in the bed.

Dad 2:                          I really, really wanted us to be able to have a natural birth.  And it was really important to Maria.

Maria:                          Things are progressing great.  I started pushing.  This was a huge accomplishment for me because this was my first baby.  I didn’t get to push.  I was very excited.  When they contacted this other doctor, I never met her, had no idea who she was, and knew nothing about her but she came in and she insisted that I go right to the OR.  I asked her if she could give me reasons why I was in danger and if she could tell me if my baby was at risk right now, if I was at risk, what was the concern that she had, and she had no answers for me.  It was all about getting it over with and getting it done, and getting it done as quickly, quietly, and as neatly as possible.

Leah:                           I wish I had known more about recovery and what can happen and how sort of vigilant to be about your body.

Edith:                           If you have a C-Section or if you have an epidural, you didn’t fail.

Maria:                          I wish I had known that I could have requested a different doctor even amidst of labor.

Jessica:                       There are a lot of policies and protocols that women are unaware of that these policies and protocols may be fit a small percentage of the population who needs them but they are applied to everyone who comes through the hospital door.

Cherington:                 There are so many options before you get to an epidural.  Women need to empower themselves.  Women need to empower each other that we can do this.

Desiree:                      I think it’s more important to give our bodies a chance to do what they were created to do naturally.  And when you’re doing that, you’re giving your baby a chance as well.

Diana:                          Birth doesn’t just happen to you.  This is your process.  We have to be our own advocates and that you’d be surprised that when you question medical professionals, they actually will pause and consider what you have to say.

Edith:                           I really wish that we took a childbirth education class.

Diana:                          Childbirth education would provide me with the tools needed to believe that I could do this and empower myself and my husband to become our own advocates.

Cherington:                 It was an opportunity for my husband and I to talk through the what-ifs.  He knew what Plan B was, what Plan C was and could actively advocate for me.

Desiree:                      Overall, it really helped us grow stronger as a couple which was really important for, I think, overcoming the challenges that we experience during childbirth and definitely afterwards in parenthood.

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